What does it feel like when you’re a new mom with a 5 month old and the pediatrician writes THE script for your first Epi-pen Jr.? Overwhelming? Mindboggling? Surreal? Scary? Empowering? Infuriating?
For me, it was all of the above. I felt like I had just learned how to change a diaper, and now this?! What had I done to draw this hand of cards? Better yet, what had my baby done to deserve this?
So, you’re telling me that if my baby looks like he’s going to die from something he ate I need to stick this long needle in his thigh and keep it there for 10 seconds, and then call 911? Welcome to motherhood. This was not in any of the books I read while I was pregnant. Needless to say, I was not very happy.
I got the prescription filled and decided to look for some new reading material. If I had to deal with this “thing”, I was not going to lose, and I was not going down unprepared. I looked and I looked and I searched and I looked. Back in 1987, it was extremely difficult to find any written material on anaphylaxis, Epi-pens and food allergies. Remember, no internet. Pretty much had to rely on the doctor’s explanation and the instructions on the side of the Epi-pen.
What exactly do they mean by outer thigh? How exactly do you hold a squirming, screaming infant still for ten seconds if you manage to get that needle in that little soft squishy outer thigh? Heck, getting a clean diaper and pants on him was a major event every morning.
Like many other things in my life, I knew that practice would make perfect. Right? But how the heck do you practice when there’s no practice pen? Or no old pens to stick into an orange?
I knew that athletes sometimes improve at their sport with visual imaging. So, that’s what I did. I thought about it, and thought about it. I saw his face. I saw the thigh. I saw my hands. I saw the Epi-pen. I went through every step of using that Epi-pen in my mind thousands of times. I thought about it while I was trying to go to sleep at night, and I thought about it while I was doing the dishes, and I thought about it while I was vacuuming, and I thought about it while I was watching the kids, and I thought about it whenever I had an idle moment……..until….. until I knew I could use it with confidence when the time would come that I would have to step up and use it.
And years later the time did come, and I did use it, and I was thankful that I was there because I was ready. And I did save a life, and you can too.
You can do this. And you will if you have to. And you will feel grateful that you are prepared.
Warmest Regards,
Ann
P.S. I still think about it.
It is all of those things when you have a 2 year old who just had a significant reaction to peanuts and you realize your 2 month old baby is considered high risk. It is not something you would ever choose, but you know that you have to be ready. And you hope that the school you send your child to will be ready.
You never let the little things get to you as much and you take the time to enjoy your children.
But your guard is never down. Yes I had to save my child’s life a few weeks ago and it was nice to be ready. I saw the reaction and told my husband that our daughter was having a reaction to food that the label said was ok, and I called re: cross contamination, and still she reacted. Obviously cross contaimination was there. My husband left for work and told it could not be (denial I suppose) but he was surprised how quickly the reaction got worse a few minutes later.
I was always have to think about it even when she is grown and has children herself.
Melinda
Melinda,
Kudos to you for being ready and so brave. My son is 23 years old, lives in another state, and I still think about proper epi-pen technique. I hope some of the research that’s currently taking place will help to minimize the probability of anaphylaxis in the future.
Ann